How To Have A Positive Attitude For Muddy Matches Online Dating

Monday, October 19th, 2020

How To Have A Positive Attitude For Muddy Matches Online Dating

Who ever said that love was easy? At we try to make your quest for love in the countryside as easy as possible; our dating site is full of rural singles and country dwellers who all share the same passion for the countryside and outdoors life. So, by dating with us you know that you’ll be in good company and able to search for other rural singles based on their countryside interests and way of life. However, there is only so much we can do.

If you’re looking for love, it’s really important that you have the right mindset from the start. Going into countryside dating telling yourself that ‘there’ll be no-one out there for you’ isn’t going to be particularly productive, is it? So, in today’s countryside dating blog, we’ve got five fantastic tips to help you go into dating with the right mindset, ready to find love with the least stress possible.

1. Harness the power of positive self-talk

This tip starts with you. It’s time to have a long, hard think about how you talk to yourself. What do you say when you look in the mirror? Have previous relationships ground down your self-confidence and have you started to tell yourself that ‘you’ll never find anyone’? What we tell ourselves is so important and can have astonishing affects on our behaviour and attitude. If you’re falling into the rabbit hole of negative self-talk, try to reverse what you think. If you’re used to looking in the mirror and criticising yourself, stop and reframe what you’re saying so that you praise yourself for one thing that you like. If you’re telling yourself that you’ll be single forever, then turn this into a positive phrase – something like, ‘I’m single right now but there are plenty of people for me to meet and date, and one of them might be ‘the one’.’ It takes practise, but over time you’ll soon reap the benefits of this positive self-talk.

2. Try to live in the moment

If you’re anxious about where your life is going and about being single, then it’s easy to start racing ahead in your mind and on a first date, wonder if you’ll end up getting married and living happily ever after. Gosh the pressure! We recommend that you slow down, enjoy the moment and take things step by step. There’s a famous saying that you can’t change yesterday, you can’t change tomorrow, the only thing you can change is the right now. What better reason do you need to slow down and concentrate on the moment. By slowing down, bringing your mind into the moment and fully enjoying it for what it is, you’ll remove the temptation to let anxiety and panic get out of hand.

3. Consider online dating as a fun activity, not the be all and end all

When you’ve been single a long time, and especially if everyone around you is loved up, then you might have inadvertently been putting pressure on yourself and your dating. Stressing about finding love and dating is a sure-fire way to make something more of a chore than fun, and dating should be fun and flirty! Consider online dating as just part of a full life, take the pressure off and we’re sure that the whole process will become a lot less stressful.

4. See each date as an opportunity to learn about yourself

We’ve all been on a dead-end date. You know what we mean; that date where you’re sure you’ll never want to see that particular person again and you know that there is no relationship. That’s ok. Try to have a nice evening/afternoon anyway and take from it what you can; experience at dating, greater self-awareness and a better understanding of who and what you’re looking for.

5. Try to stay positive

Ever heard of the law of attraction? That is, by thinking positively and visualising what you would like, it will actually manifest in your life? GIVE IT A GO! You never know… rural love might be right around the corner.