First Date Basics

Saturday, March 03rd, 2018

In our last blog we discussed the basics of online dating, including how to write a dating profile and which photos to choose. In this blog post we will look at the basics of arranging a first date and meeting up with your date.

Choosing a first date venue

A first date is your opportunity to get to know someone properly in person and to see whether or not there is a ‘spark’ when you meet. This means that it is a good idea to meet somewhere where you can properly talk and can see each other well.

Ideal first date venues include coffee shops, pubs, or somewhere like an art gallery if you both enjoy visiting galleries. Some people like to go for dinner, but others are put off by the thought of eating in front of someone and trying to carry out a conversation between mouthfuls.

First date safety

The venues that we have mentioned above are very public and therefore provide a safe place to meet. Don’t be tempted to go to someone’s house on a first date, or to accept a lift from them until you know them well.

Another thing to consider is how you are getting to the venue and more importantly how you are getting home. If you are using public transport, make sure that you know when the last bus, or train is leaving if your date goes well and you end up talking into the early hours.

What to wear

Make sure that whatever you are wearing is clean, ironed (if it needs ironing) and matches well to the situation that you are in. You don’t want to be wearing a tuxedo in the local pub, but a scruffy football top and tracksuit bottoms would show a lack of effort.

Aim for something that is slightly smarter than what you would usually wear in that venue.

What to talk about

A first date is a tricky balance of asking lots of questions and showing interest in the person, without it sounding like a job interview.

Try to find out about things that you have in common as this will help to build a bond between you. For example, if you are both outdoorsy people, talk about your outdoor pursuits together.