Following Up After a First Date

Friday, August 15th, 2014

Woman in white shirt talking on a mobile phone next to a car.Congratulations – you’ve been on your first date with someone new. How did it go?

How well your date went will determine what you do next. So here are some tips for what to do if it went well, or what to do if it went badly.

I really liked him/her

If your date went really well and you enjoyed their company, it’s a good idea to follow up with a message to say that you had a wonderful time. This will reassure your date that you like them and will let them know that you’re interested in meeting up again.

You may wish to get in touch with them to see if they are free to meet up again soon, but use your judgement as to whether it is too soon to arrange to meet up again. Some people like to take things slowly, while others are keener to move a bit faster.

If you have decided to give it a go with your new date, you may also wish to hide your profile. You can do this by signing into your Muddy Matches account and clicking on ‘Change my profile visibility.’

I’d like to be friends

If you met and didn’t fancy each other in person, it’s a good idea to follow up with a message to say that there was no spark, but you’d like to be friends. However, only say that you’d like to be friends if you genuinely plan to see each other again as friends.

I didn’t like him/her in person

If the feeling was mutual, there is no need to follow up with a message unless you want to.

If your date was super-keen, but you are not keen on seeing them again, it is polite to say so. If you don’t send them a message they may be waiting eagerly for you to call or they might get in touch with you to arrange to meet up again.