9 uplifting hints to make hearts swell on Blue Monday

Improve your mood and motivation on Blue Monday with these Muddy Matches online dating tips that we know will raise a smile.

Just when you thought life couldn’t be any more motivation sapping with the post-Christmas and New Year comedown in full swing, along comes Blue Monday.

At Muddy Matches countryside dating, we are acutely aware that Blue Monday can lead singletons down a spiralling path of doom and gloom. That’s why we urge muddy singles to banish the Blue Monday blues and share a little love with fellow outdoor-loving singles.

Online dating with Muddy Matches can improve mental health, inspire sense of purpose, evoke empowerment and spark self worth.
So here are 9 ways we know country life dating can lighten the load on Blue Monday whilst also showing off your own true colours:

Be free with the feel good messaging
Use your daily messages to better effect and share some ‘happy thoughts’ that offer a touch of unexpected feel good to other singletons. Why stick with ‘hey’, when you could raise a smile with an altogether more caring, ‘happy’ message that focuses on ‘Just seeing how you are doing…just because!’ or ‘woke up and thought of you!’

Everyone gets a little buzz out of thinking they are front of mind and someone appreciates you for being you.

Get on the front foot on the road to Positive-ville
Take a positive outlook on life and actually connect! Don’t sit back and wait for a certain someone on your favourites list to reach out to you or respond reactively (or not) to those that view your profile or send you a wink. Instead, be the one who initiates the first contact and starts the conversation. It’s bold and shows real confidence.

Take the initiative and be on the front foot to make the first move. We know it’s brave and can be a little bit awkward but putting yourself out there has helped many a singleton get a real and genuine sense of empowerment and purpose.

Release the pressure valve a little
Chill out. Breathe a little. Online dating with Muddy Matches is designed to be fun but we know nurturing your connections can be stressful at times. We say take a step back, assess what feels right and relax into it. Message without agenda, expectation or urgency. Get to know what makes your matches’ tick at a pace that suits them. In the days of a slower pace of dating, there really is no rush to take connections to the next level so enjoy the experience.

Your connections, and state of mind, will be all the better for it. You’ve got this.

Invite someone for a ‘blue’ outdoor date
Swap the ‘blue’ of Monday for the soothing blue of water or sky with a brisk lake walk, leisure stroll round the park or a woodland ramble somewhere. And if the cold snap’s put paid to your dates outdoor, you could even and invite another muddy singleton to join you on a virtual 360* video hike, glider trip, canoe paddle date, from the comfort of your living room.

There’s no harm to bring the outdoors in and still get the joy. We have lots of 360° VR experience dates to enjoy here

Find joy and contentment in shared interests
Nothing beats the blues more than a good chin wag over something you are really passionate about with someone who has that same level of appreciation. So run a few new searches, this time based upon interests and hobbies, and see who you unearth.

Then message with a conversation starter that encourages a reply. We also think the advanced keyword search with some of the more unique passions and interests can throw us some new opportunities.

A wink can work wonders
Choose Blue Monday to fire off 10 extra cheeky winks than you’d typically do on any other average day. Don’t underestimate the value of something as small as a free virtual wink in brightening someone’s mood and boosting their self esteem right at a time they may just need it.

Don’t fear the FOMO that doesn’t exist
Remember you are not missing out; the dating scene – for real – has changed. Now is the right time to make new connections, setting yourself up for the whatever the year ahead holds in store. Increasing your visibility really is good for the soul.

You can take comfort that you have done what you can to be front of queue, ready to embrace the new dating scene – that’s uplifting enough, and then renewed hope can kick in.

Reply to those members who you’ve put on hold
Manners cost nothing and, on Blue Monday, when everyone is feeling a little down in the dumps, just a polite reply to a old, forgotten about message that says ‘you know what, thanks for getting in touch’ can lift spirits through nothing more common courtesy and appreciation. Acknowledging the interest – even if it’s not really reciprocated – has real value too and can boost self esteem.

Give your favourites list a facelift
Logic says a change of scenery can change a mood and alter a mindset. The same applies to facelifting your favourites list; add 5-10 new people who catch your eye.

Adding someone to a list pings a notification and signifies more than a fleeting interest; something that will add to the self worth and offer reassurance of those on the receiving end when they check their inbox.

For nearly 2 decades now, Muddy Matches has been well trusted as the UK and Ireland’s original, award-winning online home of farmer dating and rural dating.

Attracting singles from all walks of country life, it is considered THE go-to online dating service to find love in the countryside.