Post Breakup Dating
Sunday, July 8th, 2018
If you have joined Muddy Matches following a breakup, we have tips to help you to navigate the world of online dating.
Take the time to come to terms with it
Breakups are upsetting and it is necessary to take time to come to terms with what has happened. If you can’t even talk about your ex without bursting into tears, or reaching for a beer, then it us too soon to put yourself out there again.
Scream, cry, moan to your friends and do whatever it takes to make yourself feel better.
Don’t write an angry profile
If you have been hurt by someone, it is understandable that you won’t want to find someone else who shares their negative traits, but don’t fill your dating profile text with angry jibes. For example, it sounds bitter if you write ‘I’m not looking for another mummy’s boy’, or ‘gold-diggers need not apply’.
Use your profile text to tell people about who you are and what you enjoy doing.
Don’t sit back and wait
If you have decided that you really are ready to start dating again, you can control the situation by sending out messages to people, rather than waiting for them to get in contact with you.
Manage your expectations
Online dating is a great way to meet people, but it isn’t a magic wand. It will take time to meet someone special and you will be likely to meet a few unsuitable matches along the way. Think of your unsuitable dates as a form of training that will help you to relax on future dates.
Take it slow
If you have come out of a relationship where you spent every minute of your spare time together, or even lived together, it can be tempting to try to replicate that level of intimacy straight away. As lovely as it is to have that kind of connection, it isn’t something that should be rushed. Take the time to get to know each other and to enjoy your first date, your first kiss…