How to Solve Common Dating Problems

Saturday, July 07th, 2018

If you want to meet someone special to spend the rest of your life with, you will usually have to kiss a few frogs on route to finding your perfect match. There will be ups and downs, but it will all be worth it in the end.

We’re put together some of the most common problems and how to deal with them.

“I haven’t had any messages yet”

If you haven’t had any messages yet, you need to be proactive. This means that you should add people to your ‘favourites’ list and that you should send messages to people to let them know that you are interested in them.

Don’t be disheartened if you don’t receive a message back straight away as it can take time for people to think about what to say.

“I was all going so well and now they’re not replying to me”

Unfortunately, this is such a common problem in dating (not just online dating) that it has been named ‘ghosting’. After weeks of chatting and what you think is the start of a great relationship, all forms of communication end without any warning.

Ghosting is a cowardly way to end a relationship without having to deal with any of the reprocussions.

If you don’t hear from your date, it probably means that they have met someone new, or that they are not ready for a relationship at this time.  It may be that everything became too intense too quickly and it caused them to withdraw from you.

If you have been ghosted, don’t spend any time trying to win them back.

“I have low self esteem”

If you have low self esteem, you can become suspicious of anyone who shows an interest in you, after all, if you don’t like yourself, why should anyone else? This can cause you to become defensive in relationships, or to avoid looking for love in the first place.

If you are struggling to find your good qualities on your own, we would suggest asking a close friend to write a dating profile for you, which will highlight your good points that you may never have thought about on your own.