Trust Issues

Wednesday, September 27th, 2017

Trust issues arise from being cheated on and are a pretty common issue in relationships. They can cause people to become like detectives to ensure that their current partner is not cheating on them.

How to cope with your own trust issues

Take time to get over a betrayal

Being cheated on is a horrible experience and can lead you to question what you could have done to prevent it. It is natural to go over it in your head time and time again, but it is not healthy in the long term. Instead of rushing into a relationship, try to spend some time on your own getting back to who you are as a single person.

Don’t assume that everyone is the same

Yes, your ex was cruel to you, but that doesn’t mean that everyone else will be. Try to follow the rule that people are ‘innocent until proven guilty’, instead of presuming guilt from the start.

Try to maintain your own interests

When you start a new relationship, it can be tempting to spend every minute with the person, or at least in communication with them. However, this is not a good thing to do as you will start to obsess about them and start to worry if they do not reply to you straight away. Try to keep busy so that you do not begin to obsess about your new partner

How to cope with a partner’s trust issues

Let them know about your regular routine

One of the characteristics of someone having trust issues is that they want to know where you are and who you are with. You don’t need to tell them everything, but give them an idea about regular activities that have so that they have an idea.

Send them regular messages

Oeople with trust issues will worry that they are being ignored, so by sending them a few messages each day it will reassure them that you are still thinking about them.

Don’t let their jealousy change you

If your partner is jealous, try not to change your routine in order to reassure them. Make sure that you still see your friends and family and that you do not become cut off from them.