How long does it take to Meet Someone?

Wednesday, May 17th, 2017

Everyone wants to know how long it will take to meet someone when they first join an online dating website. The truth is that you can fall in love with the first people whom you meet, or it can take years to find the right person.

Typically it will take about three months, but it all depends on a number of different factors that we will explain in further detail.

How active you are online

Dating websites reward their most active members with higher rankings in the list of people, which means that you will be more likely to be seen by other members. Logging in regularly and updating your profile text and photos will mark you out as an active user.

Whether you send messages

If you sit and wait for people to get in contact with you, it will take much longer to find someone than if you make the first move yourself. You don’t have to write anything elaborate, just a simple message will be enough to open up a conversation.

If you need any help, you could try using our dating message templates.

How positive you are

If you have been using online dating sites for quite a while you can become jaded with the whole experience and start to believe that you will not find anyone. We understand that it is really disheartening if it appears that everyone you know is meeting their significant other when you are not.

However, please, please do not use your dating profile to rant about how you will never meet someone. A negative profile will make people think that you are a negative person and it will turn into a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Where you live

If you live on an island with only 1000 inhabitants it will be harder to find someone than if you were to live in a busy city like London, or Glasgow. As wonderful as it would be to find your perfect match within the same postcode as you, it is necessary to adjust your search criteria so that you look at a wider range of people.

The main thing is to keep trying, but if you feel like you need a break, you can choose to ‘hide’ your profile and come back to it at a later date.