5 Things Not to Say on a First Date

Wednesday, December 14th, 2016


First dates are full of excitement, nerves and anticipation as you wonder what your date will be like in person and what they will think of you.

You’ll be thinking about what to wear, how to style your hair, where to go and of course what you should talk about so that you can get to know each other.

The aim of the conversation is to find out whether you are a match and to show your date what a wonderful person you are.

However, there are a number of things that you shouldn’t say…

Don’t blow your own horn

Nobody likes a bragger, so it’s rather off-putting if you spend the whole date boasting about your achievements, or who you have met.

Don’t admit to Facebook stalking

It is become more and more common for people to do a little internet snooping on your date before you meet up, however it is just weird when you casually mention in conversation what you know about them from reading their social media posts, or looking at their photos online.

Let them tell you about what they have been doing instead of mentioning what you’ve already seen online.

Avoid isms 

Sexism, racism and any other offence isms are not acceptable on a first date as it really doesn’t give a good impression. You don’t need to censor everything that you say to a level where you sound like an MP giving a speech, but avoid giving a rant about immigration, or the role of women in society.

Don’t interrogate them

Yes, you want to find out everything about them, but you don’t need to know everything within the next hour. Let the conversation flow naturally rather than asking lots of probing questions.

Don’t scare them with time frames

Lots of people want to get engaged, get married, or have babies by a particular age, but it’s really not an acceptable topic of conversation for a first date as it will make your date feel that you are desperately working to a time frame rather than wanting to be with them in particular.

Conversations about your life goals should come further down the line when you are officially a couple.