First Date Pet Peeves

A first date is the time where you get to know each other and to find out whether you click in person. You should be yourself, but a well-behaved version of yourself. Here are some tips to help you on your first date…

Using your mobile phone

Looking at your mobile phone during a date is incredibly rude and shows a lack of respect for your companion. Even quickly checking a text shows that you aren’t fully paying attention.

Talking about your ex

Talking about your ex can go one of two ways – either you’ll reminisce fondly about them and will make your date feel like you’re not ready to meet someone new, or you’ll complain so much that you’ll sound like a grumpy misery. If you were together for a long time it’s hard not to accidentally mention them, but try to keep it to a minimum.

Awkward silence vs constant chatter

Being comfortable sitting in silence is a good sign when you’re in a long-term relationship, but when you’ve only just met one another it feels rather awkward. If conversation dries up, ask them about something that they’ve said, or that they mentioned on their dating profile.

On the other hand, talking at top speed for hours on end is not a good idea either. If you’ve been doing all the talking, take time to ask your date a question and really listen to their response before talking any more.

Acting like an interviewer

Asking questions is a good way to get conversation started, but asking too many questions without sharing your own experiences can make the whole process feel like a job interview. Relax, laugh and enjoy yourself.

Not offering to split the bill

If you’ve been out for a meal or drinks, it’s polite to offer to pay at least your own share of the bill. Turning up and expecting your date to pay for you is rude and sets a bad example. If your date is insistent on paying, then it’s a different story.