Guest Post: What Women Should Know

Tuesday, January 13th, 2015

James Preece in a suit pointing at the cameraWhether they are hoping to meet their life partner or just looking to go out for a few dates, more and more people are turning to using online dating sites. Men and women are using dating sites because it allows them to meet people outside of their usual social circle. It is also easier to fit into their often hectic lifestyles. While most men are usually unfazed about using dating sites many women can find themselves a bit anxious. Often asking, “What do men really see when they look at my profile?”

As the UK’s leading Dating Coach, James Preece works with single clients every day, making sure they have a perfect online dating profile.

We’ve asked him for some of his top tips to help you get a profile that men notice.

What Men Think About Your Photos

The very first thing a man will when searching for profiles is to check out all the photos. Many men like looking at photos that show a woman’s natural side. If you are wearing a lot of makeup in your pictures it could be taken as a sign that you are either uncomfortable with your looks or you’re trying too hard. If you have lots of pictures with family or friends then they might feel a little intimidated.  Do they have to impress all of them as well as you?  Photos that attract many men are ones that show women doing silly things. This shows a good sense of humour and someone who can poke fun at themselves.  Above all, they want to make sure you look like a friendly person who won’t make them feel bad about contacting you.

What Men Think About Your Profile

If your profile says the usual cliché things like you love to travel, trying new things or cuddling animals then you could come off sounding like everyone else. It’s amazing how many women love staying at home with a bottle of wine and a DVD.  You aren’t original as almost everyone writes this! This is an automatic turnoff for most men because it looks as though you didn’t put any real time into your profile. Men are also turned off by women who contradict themselves. For example, if you say you don’t drink much in your profile, then you shouldn’t use pictures of you drinking. Otherwise, you could seem like a woman who’s trying to be someone they’re not.

Oh and if you MUST write that you want someone who shares the same interests as you, then make sure you specify what they are.  Men aren’t mind readers!

The Best Profile to Win Over Any Man

Now that you know what men think about your profile it is time to find out what will cause a man to get in touch and contact you.  A really good profile is one that is a combination of great photos and a good paragraph or two that shows off your best qualities. If you want to get a feel for what the best profiles look like you can look through other profiles on the site and see what works for them. Don’t copy them word for word because you won’t seem authentic. Tell a funny joke or write about something funny that happened to you. Don’t be afraid to be different as that could be the thing that makes you stand out. Plus, if you get a man to smile looking at your profile you can be sure that they will try to get in touch with you.

Online dating can be a very difficult process. You know you’re a smart, funny, driven woman but you don’t know how to get that across on your profile. What should you include, what shouldn’t you and how do you word it in a way that will attract the right guy for you. If you are in a rut about what to do then my new book can help you put your best self forward.

About James Preece

As the UK’s leading Dating Expert and Dating Coach he is a consultant for many dating sites and is involved in a wide variety of different areas, such as personal dating coaching, Online Dating, speed dating and matchmaking.

He is a very experienced Relationship expert and is a rising star having already helped thousands of men and women find love, build confidence and improve their relationships.

He has been a featured expert in top UK and international media and is the author of the Amazon bestselling Online Dating Book  “I Will Make You Click”.

Find out more about James via his personal website: