What to Do When Someone Isn’t Interested

Friday, March 21st, 2014

Blonde woman biting the end of her finger.In an ideal world, attraction would always be mutual, but unfortunately things don’t always work that way, so it’s important to know how to deal with receiving a message from someone who isn’t interested in hearing from you.

Receiving a ‘thanks, but no thanks’ doesn’t mean that you have done anything wrong or that you aren’t attractive, it just means that for whatever reason that particular person does not think that you are right for them. I know that saying ‘don’t take it to heart’, is about as useful as saying ‘don’t stare at the scary sight’, but I’m afraid it’s the best piece of advice.

Ignore it

The easiest and most sensible reaction to a ‘thanks, but no thanks’ type response from someone is to just ignore it. Not writing anything back is easy to do and is the recommended response. In general, writing a ‘why not?’ type response can seem threatening and will not make someone change their mind.


In some cases it is appropriate to reply to someone who has said no – if the person has said that they’ve just started seeing someone and wants to give it a go, you may want to wish them luck, but say to get in touch with you if things don’t work out.

If you are telling someone that you are not interested, make sure that you are polite, as it takes a lot of courage to get in contact with someone.