7 Things Not To Do After a Breakup

Tuesday, June 11th, 2013

Black and white photo of a crying eye

Do you know someone who did something drastic after a breakup? Something like spending all their savings, moving to another country, or worse still getting married to a rebound? Your mind is in no shape to make rational decisions after a breakup. Even though above examples are extreme, there are a few very common mistakes that many people end up making after a breakup. Here is a list of things not to do after a breakup.

1. Being Needy and Begging

Do not beg your ex to get back together. You are only setting yourself up for more hurt. Not to mention that even if they do get back with you, you are going to end up being a doormat.

2. Drunk Dialing

This is the most common and also the most embarrassing thing you can do after a breakup. Getting drunk and calling your ex. If you call your ex when you are sloshed, you are probably going to say something that you will regret in the morning. Do yourself a favour, if you are planning to get drunk, make sure you have a friend with you to stop you from calling your ex.

3. Facebook Stalking

Stalking has become extremely easy with Facebook (I will take the liberty to not mention real life stalking in this list). But the only person who is affected by this stalking is you. When you are constantly checking your ex’s online profile, you are just feeding your obsession about your ex. You are not going to find peace with the breakup until you stop stalking your ex. The best way to stop it is to unfriend, unfollow, or remove your ex from social sharing sites.

4. Avoiding the Pain

Breakups hurt like hell. But some people just decide to avoid the pain and indulge in something that helps them forget it (like alcohol, drugs, sometimes even work). Unless you grieve and go through the emotional pain, you will never be able to heal from the breakup and move on with your life.

5. Giving Up

You can’t just give up on finding the perfect relationship for you. Do not let the hurt of the breakup ruin your future relationships. You have to believe that your perfect partner is out there for you and you will find them sooner or later. This breakup is just going to get you one step closer to that person.

6. Trying To Stay Friends with Your Ex

Let’s be honest; being friends with an ex rarely works out. In most cases, if you are desperately trying to stay friends with your ex, you have feelings for your ex and you are secretly hoping to get back together. You will never be able to fully move on and you will never be truly friends with your ex.

7. Staying in contact with your ex

Even if you want to get your ex back, you should still cut off all contact with your ex and stay away from them. Trying to stay in contact with your ex is just stopping you from being happy and moving on. Besides, unless you remove yourself from your ex’s life, they will never realize what they are missing.

This article was contributed by Kevin Thompson, who writes on breakups and reconciliation on his website UnBreakup.org.