Beat First Date Nerves

Tuesday, January 08th, 2013

A lime green tea cup on a lime green trayCongratulations, you’re about to meet up with your new date for the first time, which means that you’ve made a good first impression!  Although going on a first date can be very exciting, it can also be a little nerve-wracking, so here are a few tips to calm your nerves:

Arrange a pre-date date

Instead of committing to full-length date it has now become popular to meet for a brief get-together, known as a pre-date date (although it’s probably best not to call it that).

For example, you could say “I’m passing through your village on route to my see my aunt on Saturday if you’d like to meet for a quick coffee”. That way you’ve already set a limited time-scale in advance, so it won’t seem rude if you disappear off after a short meeting.

A pre-date date can seem less of a commitment and is more relaxed than a formal date.

Read through your messages

Once you have arranged a date or a pre-date date, make sure to read through the messages that you have been sending to one another. Reading through your messages from your date has two benefits; first of all it will help you to feel a bit more prepared and secondly it will act as an ego boost as you read through all the lovely things that they have said to you.

Think positively

If reading through your messages hasn’t given you an ego boost, remember that you’re about to go on a date because your date likes what they see and they want to get to know you better.

Have a cup of tea

Sorry, this might sound a bit like a line from Father Ted, but drinking tea is scientifically proven to calm you down (unless you don’t like it) and works alongside positive thinking. If you enjoy a good brew, take some time out to enjoy a nice cuppa instead of a bit of ‘Dutch courage’.

Take a walk

If you fancy a more active way of relaxing, walking allows you to burn off excess energy and to get some fresh air, perfect if you’re wishing to concentrate on your breathing…


You’d think that breathing would come naturally, but when you get het up it’s a normal reaction for your breathing to change. Stop and think about your breathing until you find that you start to breathe more slowly and feel calmer.

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